Sluts and Suicide

Author's Note: If you can't or don't understand sarcasm, then please refrain from reading the article. You won't understand. 

Sluts are fun. Who can't enjoy a slut? Certain men like them for obvious reasons and sluts just give some women something to talk about. Who doesn't like a good slut story?

Except for one question. One constitutes a slut? What makes one woman a slut? It depends on the person actually. Is there a certain number of people one has to sleep with to become a slut?

If she has more than one baby daddy....If she has slept with more than three guys...If she has a boyfriend and has sex with someone else...If she wears revealing clothing.....If she posts revealing pictures of herself....If she sleeps with someone on the first night...If she sleeps with someone on the first date....If she sleeps with someone that has a mate....If she sleeps with someone at the age of fourteen...If she sleeps with someone at ALL....

Sluts are subjective, I suppose.

It doesn't take much to be labeled a slut because in everyone's mind, we all have our own standards. Standards that we set for others but don't hold ourselves against. We, as humans, tend to change the circumstances when they directly affect us.

I had a friend who thought abortion was murder and was vehement about that feeling until she was knocked up by a drug dealer and had two abortions. Those kind of high standards.  I digress.

There are countless stories in the media today about women that were raped and taken advantage of while under the influence of various substances. I won't elaborate on them here but I will say that the numbers are just staggering. I don't think that there is an increase on crime but I think that there is an increase on the number of women reporting sexual assaults.

What happens when these brave women tear off the shackles of anonymity and come out in the open to tell the truth. Many times it is for altruistic reasons. It can also be therapeutic. No one knows how these things will go when they are placed in front of the public eye.

Families have been forced to leave their homes and some of these women have even resorted to a very tragic act: suicide.

Why are these women retreating to suicide? When one feels suicidal, they feel hopeless. They feel as if there was no other way out.

I've dealt with some issues on this blog with one woman who people just won't seem to let rest in peace. There were so many people that attacked this blog for giving a voice to one young lady just because I defended her. They were still very much into slut shaming and saying that she deserved what she got just for her behavior...some which included exposing her breasts on the internet to people.

A slutty thing to do? Depends on your definition. I don't engage in slut shaming nor do I think anyone should. Some of the people doing the most hollering are probably not the stoic and moral people that they claim to be. Why it is anyone's business what someone else chooses to do is beyond me and why they feel as if they are the judge is anyone else is beyond me.

...she needs to apologize for her  behavior and state that what she did was wrong......

So many judgmental people in the world and not enough true wisdom and knowledge to counteract it. Sadly there are people out there that think that when a woman makes a decision with her body, she needs to explain to complete strangers why she made that decision and if it doesn't hold up to some certain moral test, then she is to be denigrated forever and shunned from that society, filled to the brim with imperfect people who wouldn't even stand up to their standards that they've set for the rest of us.

You are only responsible for yourself and the people you bring into this world, and even that's for a designated part of time.  Stop slut-shaming. If someone is doing something that you don't agree with then you don't have to associate yourself with that person nor do you have to go against your "morals" (insert snide guffaw here). I'm sure some of the things that you have done do not hold up against other's "morals". Would you want the same treatment?

If you are a so called "slut" and you're facing the sort of isolation and discrimination that goes along with that title, then remember that things do get better. Don't ever lose hope and there are ways to turn bad situations into positive ones. The people who torment you are no better than you and are fallible. You owe it to yourself to rise about the chaos and maintain positivity. Sometimes when you feel as if everything has been taken away from you, it remains the one thing you have left.

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